Hehe, I concur with shaving or closely clipping your hair if you're more than slightly balding. How old are you, anyway? How old is your gf? If you're over 45 and still have the Tom Selleck/Wilford Brimley mustache, shave it off, or trim it down and grow a goatee or beard to match.
God, I hate those pornstaches, and I'm 57.
I am a woman, but I've had good luck on okc the last 4 years. Lots of (poly) guys here don't, but I suspect their profiles and pix suck, and also that they write crappy opening PMs to women they are interested in.
And what's up with the sexual repression? Do you need to work on being more comfortable with your sexuality? Is your gf looking for more partners because you don't meet her sexual needs? Have you had disappointed ladyfriends in the past?
Personally I am really comfortable with my sexuality, and my okc profile reflects that, but not in a gross way!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37