Hello and welcome to the forum, though my welcome is quite delayed. We, too, are in the Pittsburgh area and have similar difficulties. There just doesn't seem to be the organized poly presence that we have encountered in other areas.
Finding love for us, too is difficult. Far too many judgmental people who disagree with our rules (He 41 bi, Me 37 straight). We know there are many fron our area, but we just can't seem to get together to provide what we need for each other. (enough of my rant)
Just know, you have an understanding and supportive ear here!!!!