Matt, i don't have the chance to read both of your long posts right now, but after what you just went through? I don't recommend doing that. I didn't read gala girl'l whole post either, but i read the first part & i probably agree with the whole thing.
You know what you need to do? Read every single post and thread you and your wife wrote on here. Don't even read what other people wrote; just the two of you. Then use that to not make the same mistakes over and over.
I have to go now. The train just got to the last stop.