If you engage in behavior that unwittingly hurts someone and learn from the experience, then you are human. If you continue to engage in that behavior knowing the possible outcome than you have a problem.
Everyone makes mistakes that cause damage to people in some way during their life.
The repetition of damaging behavior is not a mistake - it is a condition.
In long term affairs there is feeling and a lot of times love involved. In one night stand affairs there is genitals involved. My ex-wife used to tell me if I had an affair she would like to think it would be with someone I cared about. She hated the thought of me ruining our relationship for a random fuck brought on by loss of control. So in this case she saw it opposite.
So the question for me is which is worse - an affair out of need for connection and a relationship or one out of the need to cum.
Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules.
Monogamy might just be in my genes
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