Thank you for the hug.
She (wife) has a therapist we could probably sit with. I don't think we need one, though. We do a fairly good job with the communication front, and I feel a counselor is usually more about helping with that skill then anything else.
Right now I just don't feel like communicating at all. I just wanna keep my distance until I get over this "wanting to cry whenever I see her" feeling. So taking a break from communicating. Time to cool of, I guess.
It is just that the timing sucks. I'm pretty sure I won't feel much different by Friday. And as our anniversary comes closer and it gets clear to my wife we won't be celebrating it together I anticipate she will get very upset.
Thank you for validating my feelings, anyway. It helps a lot just to write here.
30, lesbian, my wife- R, together 8 years, wife's "something"- C, cheating on her wife with R + others