Steve, what you speak of is not the same thing as what I was speaking against.
I am not debating the idea that setting priorities and boundaries are necessary and valid things to do. They are.
Let me try with an analogy:
If you invited someone to your home as a dinner guest, would you give them their own plate and utensils to eat with, or would you say "since I have been married to my wife for 19 years, you can eat off my plate using her utensils, or off her plate using my utensils, whichever you prefer".
If your answer is the latter, you have no business involving yourself in "poly" relationships. Find a drinking-buddy instead.
(And that was the GENERAL "you", not "you" with reference to specific individual(s) on this forum.)
Last edited by NeonKaos; 01-18-2010 at 07:18 PM.