Originally Posted by Kernow
At this stage it is understandable that your wife would ask who you love most, she just needs reassurance. I remember asking a similar question, I needed to understand why I wasn't enough. Try to keep your answers simple, just reassure them that they are different people and you love them both. I don't know if your wife would find this helpful, but when I was expecting my second child I worried that I couldn't possibly love her as much as the first child. I love her just as much but it hasn't diminished my love for my first child in any way. I don't love one because she is a carbon copy of the other, they are totally different people and I love them both more than I can put into words.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for that example! That is the best way I have ever heard to reassure a mother with more than one kid, which happens to be the case here with both women.