Originally Posted by ManofDiscovery
I don't think there's anything wrong in asking for what you need.
There is also absolutely nothing wrong with getting the answer "no". He's a grown man, he gets to decide what he does with his time/emotions/body. You want to meet him, I totally get that. He doesn't want to meet you, I totally get that.
What are your options here?
1. You can claim your VETO POWER and demand your wife stop seeing him (you're right, she will probably resent you)
2. You can trust that your wife will take care of herself, and hope that maybe you'll meet her next boyfriend (if he decides he wants to)