So to appease you you are requesting that your wife's boyfriend talk to you?
Have you ever thought that he is very uncomfortable with that? I know my boyfriend has no urge to be buddy buddy with my husband. They are both respectful of each other but other than that why would they need to have open communication.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.