Yes, b/d is birthday
. Sorry, I get so used to texting with the kids that I sometimes forget I can type things out long hand without running out of room.
After I sent the original post I went in search of a site I was told about ages ago but could never remember the name of. I found it!
There is a section in there about polyamory (I found it using the provided search engine).
I emailed it to both of them with an explanation of WHY I sent it, lol.
I still want to talk to them face to face but maybe this will open the doors of communication a crack instead of the teeny-tiny window or dryer vent!