Once you know who you are
it only takes one good friend that shares your outlook, understands you and who you are, if you can trust each other's judgement, there will never be any misery powerful enough to drag you down. Not even if it's the entire world.
There will always be people in the world who do not share your understanding of the world, and if they aren't honest or just don't truly understand the concept of honesty you would be wise to give it serious consideration before choosing them to be people you share your life with.
There is no amount of money, fame, or any fortune that is more valuable than having clarity in your life. That type of peace cannot be brought and has no work around or shortcut to get there, but it sounds like you already know who and where you are. If you do know those things, then I know you also know it is OK to desire the games your husband and his girlfriend seem to be playing, because there are some people who honestly enjoy that sort of thing. Personally, I can't stand it.