No. We agreed to use birth control. An accidental pregnancy would have been one thing. But we had an agreement. She violated that agreement by deliberately going off the pill in order to get pregnant, thus force marriage. Her family was two doors down the street from mine, since the 8th grade. She knew exactly what the outcome would be - otherwise, why would she deliberately risk pregnancy? In the small town I grew up in, in the social class we were in, there was no choice.
Yes. You still made a choice. You could have chosen NOT to marry her, backward-primitive small-town christian neighborhood or no backward-primitive small-town christian neighborhood. Own your own decisions like a grown man, even if you thought you didn't know any better when you made them.
Besides, you could have carried your own condoms and used them. Just sayin'...