Originally Posted by GalaGirl
Who is paying for college? Just you? You working + grants/scholarships? That kind of dictates when/where you can go and how to support yourself as a student.
I'm glad you are thinking about that kind of thing.
And you are right -- you want to be financially independent so if it turns up with you single, you can support yourself and STILL be ok.
I would suggest that at 20? You keep your options flexible. Enjoying being engaged but don't go deeper than that til you accomplish college and whatever else you want to explore as an unmarried person.
Life is long -- you don't have to be rushing through it and cram all your adult experiences packed into the first decade of your adult life. You could choose to spread them out so you can savor them.
Yes, you are correct, college is much more prominent in my mind than marriage is right now.
I would be paying for my schooling myself from loans + grants/scholarships. I plan on doing freelance computer repair and enthusiast computer building while I'm in school to help pay for other things outside of my study, room and board.
This is what I was trying to tell my fiance, but from her point of view, if things are going well with her and I, then why do I need to rush into school and why do I need to experience the 20 year old college life if I'm really in love with her and cherish our lifestyle that we have together?
My answer to this is that these years are a once in a lifetime opportunity, and that I'm only going to be in my 20's once in my life.