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Old 05-06-2013, 05:04 AM
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Default Helping wife go through a "break up"

Well, as I mentioned in my introduction a few days ago, despite all my fear and hesitation as my wife and I move into this new territory, her first attempt at starting a relationship with another guy did not go well at all.

In a nutshell, she put all her feelings for him on the table, he reciprocated, they agreed that they would start something, and then he pulled the rug out from under it at the last minute.

To be honest, yet selfish, this worked out well for me, as I was really having a hard time with how quickly things were moving, even though sex was apparently out of the question. However, being there with my wife while she wallowed and cried about it for several days was tough. We talk about how we are best friends, but I've never really had to be there for her as she was ending a relationship with another man.

She's actually meeting him for coffee right now. From what she tells me, it is for closure, but I'm still convinced he is going to try and back peddle and see if he can't figure out a way to make it work for him. He seems fickle and indecisive like that.

For what it's worth, she and I have really found this site helpful. She's pretty convinced that she is a polyamorous person after reading about NRE and getting a handle on her feelings. I'm also getting to be more and more OK with it. This whole thing started out because of my fantasies of her being with another man, cuckolding and whatnot. However, those things seem to be really taking a back seat to the even crazier, better, albeit it harder emotions to deal with that polyamory has stirred up.

I don't know why, but Nancy encouraged me to write about my feelings, and it seems to help, so here they are. Sorry to bore anyone.
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