Sounds like you have given it a lot of thought and are realistic about the "repair process" having up and downs in it. Esp at the beginning.
She's fighting that hard for Snowflake to be involved in raising our kids, but I wonder if she's willing to fight that hard to help save our marriage and earn my trust back.
Well... could ask her. "Are you willing to fight that hard to help save our marriage and earn my trust back?"
Any response to that?