I imagine that a likely response from a well intentioned person reading WH's post (or any of this, really) would be "Ok, so my word choice came out weird... that doesn't mean I'd ever act the way being described! What an absurd and unfair leap to make."
The thing is, acting that way when you talk that way and take that general approach is so common that handy tools like this flowchart have been devised: http://tacit.livejournal.com/295369.html
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.