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Old 01-16-2010, 08:24 PM
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Hi Kraven. As Yoda Girl says, trust yourself you must.

With my love, my experience was this: Years ago, without a clue about the varied and expansive nature of polyamory (and the poly community) or even what polyamory was beyond rumors of a "slutty" senior in charge of the women's group on campus, I told him what I felt and what I wanted in relationships. I was scared. It was the very beginning of our relationship. Things were said that scared me further. I might lose him I thought.

But I was honest with him and with myself. I didn't hide myself. And our relationship is better for it. From the start. We know each other and we continue to learn about each other in an open way. There are no surprises in that way.

Will you be able to form the relationships which bring fulfillment if you hide what you need? Would you want to be with others who do not accept all of you?


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If possible, you should have an affair with someone already in a relationship without the knowledge of the other partner. That way, you will not only be providing a "valuable public service" to two people for the price of one, but you will also be "helping" someone else's relationship to "move forward into poly". As long as everyone's "needs are met", it is ok to be deceptive and lie by omission.

Good Luck.
Oh my god.... I almost spilled my juice as I read that.

~Raven~
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