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Old 05-02-2013, 08:18 PM
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Originally Posted by purpleboots View Post
I G about it and he said if.I want to have sex with him I should try to initiate more. Some part of me resents that, that he won't try to seduce me. And I fear rejection.
When he said that to you, that was the perfect opportunity to tell him your terms. But you can also do it tonight. If I were you, I'd say, "You want me to initiate more. I'm sorry, but that is not my style. I am telling you right now that I want more sex, AND I want to be seduced. I want to feel desired and it's hard to feel desired when I have to do all the work to get your attention and share in sexual intimacy with you. I would like you to make more of an effort to not only include me, but to pursue me."
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