Originally Posted by franchescasc
And for anyone who has been a secondary (hate the word btw) how does being a secret make you feel? .
I can tell you that it feels really yukky after a while, the first couple of years it was exciting but in the end not so much. My ex-BF lives in a very small town and owns his own business ( we live about 6 hours apart and I travel to his town on business) so sneaking into my hotel room in the middle of the night for an hour or so because he couldn't leave his truck parked for to long " because people would notice and ask questions" . Not being able to go out in public for dinner or even a round of golf together. pretty much sucked, the sex was great but not great enough to make up for feeling like a dirty little secret after .
As you may notice he is now my ex - we had other issues that came up that we couldn't overcome so being secret was not what ended us. But I think it had alot to do with the other issues.
I wish you luck and love.