Originally Posted by DrunkenPorcupine
Perhaps you're dating "freaky" women. Ladies who are unabashedly sexual, iconoclastic, critical thinkers, thrill-seekers. whatever. The flip side of this is that when they DO think critically and ignore the law, they run into folks who conflict with YOUR value sets (you seem to value law-abiders, the stability of a regular job, et cetera). Until you reconcile those disparities, you won't find someone you connect with on the level you're looking for.
There's wisdom in this.
There's an old adage that says "opposites attract" and that doesn't just apply to magnetism (or is it !).
There is definitely a trait in humanity that tends to draw us toward people who seem to have an element of something we feel lacking in ourselves. I think this may be what Porcupine is referring to.
Maybe in your case you wish there was a piece of you that was more able to live a bit on the wild side. But rather than risk it yourself you're grabbing at it on the way by.
For you to determine I guess .