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Old 01-15-2010, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Confused View Post
We have two small children around all day long and he often works evenings so we tend to get 4 evenings out of 9 to be alone together. I've worked a lot on myself this last couple of years and am finally making strides in accepting myself and liking myself without being entirely dependent on how he feels about me for my self esteem. But he's just so darn lovely to be around..
4 out of 9 is far from excessive I think <chuckle> But just keep TALKING - letting him know how much you value that time. But try to be fair also and acknowledge that within that limitation (4) there may be desires for both of you to pursue some self interests too. The more you talk about such things the less likely someone will come away with a feeling of being rejected, ignored or trapped by over-dependence.
Make sense ?

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