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Old 04-29-2013, 12:40 PM
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What if you had the clarity of another relationship? Maybe that would have pushed it over the edge for you.
Well, although we'd tried poly in 1999-2000, it kinda blew up and we gave up on it. So, no, I didn't have the "clarity" of another relationship in our final 10 years together, as I have morals and do not cheat. But finally, I did get interested in this guy online, and even though he was 1000 miles away, we experienced a kind of love for each other. It only lasted 3 months, but the quality of the NRE did show me what was missing in my life with my husband.

But I didn't leave the husband FOR that guy, I left him for myself.


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How many years did you try ?
Well, we were together 30 years. So, 30 years. But the swirling down the drain in earnest was the last 10 years.

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Was your husband happy during that time ...were you ?
Sometimes we were happy, sometimes we weren't. I'd say I was happy in my relationship 60% of the time. Eventually I realized that wasn't often enough, and wasn't going to get better no matter how much more therapy we did.
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