Your husband is spewing ridiculousness. What the bloody dickens would make him even think that asking that was appropriate? It sounds like he has moved on and planning a wedding and having children with someone else while you two are still married.
I do not blame you one bit for wanting him to decide. You deserve better. His hypothetical scenarios are probably his real thoughts. Shame on that woman, too. She is aspiring to be a homewrecker. I know that is not ethical non-monogamy. If your husband can be stolen and swayed that easily, let him go because he was never "yours" to begin with. He cannot be silly enough to not realise that things he is imagining up are not hurtful. BG is right. Your hubby is out of touch with reality.
What a sad situation.
Ry - Me. Panromantic demisexual with a history of polyamorist tendencies. Married to...
Matt (Hubby) - The once distant stranger that I complement beautifully. DH of 13 years and father of our four children.
Last edited by FullofLove1052; 04-29-2013 at 03:57 PM.