Originally Posted by GalaGirl
I could be wrong, but here's what I'm hearing:
- I love my BF. I want to work on that relationship.
- I no longer love my husband. I don't want to work on that relationship.
She loves her husband. She is in love with (feeling major lust, and feeling romantic and she just HAS to be with him as often as possible, ie: NRE overriding rational thought) the boyfriend.
Or so it seems to me. She said her h wants to hang in there til their oldest gets out of the house... so there are other young kids to consider?
Yet this bf seems like a wild card. He's dark, he's had a shady past. Does he want to live with her? Does he want her youngest kids impinging on their love nest? Is he in rebound from his own marriage breaking up?
I suggest slowing everything the hell down and trying to be rational here!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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