Awww, you poor dear. Guys can be so mean.
Dating is hard! I don't think we poly people just come out and admit that enough. I've gone on so many first dates in the 4 years I've been practicing poly. I found a gf right away on OKC, but then must have dated 30 men in 3 years after meeting her. I had fun, I had my heart knicked, I had NRE, I had some GREAT sex, and kink activities, and laughs, but didn't meet a really cool guy who suits me nearly perfectly, for 3 years!
One other thing that stands out: Q is having trouble cumming with a condom on? Get used to condoms, they are a fact of life when one is poly/dating. You were really nice to let him wear his jewelry. Does the jewelry make him cum easier?
There are other ways to cum besides Penis in Vagina. Oral, hand, feet, armpit, boob cleavage. Lube is your friend.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37