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Old 04-28-2013, 11:38 PM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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I could be wrong, but here's what I'm hearing:
  • I love my BF. I want to work on that relationship.
  • I no longer love my husband. I don't want to work on that relationship.

So... how about ending the obvious suffering of the husband and divorcing him? And freeing him to seek happiness again rather than having him along for the ride in a polyship he does not really want to be in for the SECOND time?

And ending your own suffering to free you to be with the BF?

Breaking up stinks for both of you, but the suffering has an end point. Suffering on and on and on with no end in sight -- that's worse!

I'm not going to say anything about the BF's shady character or the husband threatening to hit you. All that is concerning / weird sounding to me... maybe being alone is better.

But strip even THAT stuff away from your writing and I still get to a general summary from your posts of:
  • I love my BF. I want to work on that relationship.

being the thing you want to do. This is where your energy seems to be at and your willingness seems to be at. So if that is where this is at for you? Could make the call. Could stop sitting on fence.

Galagirl

Last edited by GalaGirl; 04-29-2013 at 12:13 AM.
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