Why delete the thread? I meant all of this: "I don't say any of this stuff to say "you're in the wrong place, get out of here, we won't help you" at all. I hope that you will find help and support here."
Honestly, I don't know of a better forum than this for your questions (though there may be one?), like I said I was just trying to explain the difference in perspective you're likely to encounter.
And I'll admit, I'm still very curious as to the answers to my questions.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.