Thank you I appreciate your advice. I would like to work it out with my husband but we ass just not on the same page and we are not in love. He knows this although I do love him and really don't want a divorce it's just I want a real chance with my lover and he is recently single so I fear two things.
1. My current status as being married I won't be enough for him only being able to see him 1 week night a week and we both want more
2. He will find someone who isn't poly and leave me
I don't know if there is a real solution, it seems pretty grim either way.