Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
DP-may I respond?
Are you a mathmatician-minded person?
Because I think someone who is very math oriented would see that on account of 100% is "the sum total".
But for myself, I don't think that 100% is NECESSARILY the sum total of anything.
I see it that BOTH people must take 100% responsibility for the relationship AND that includes taking 100% responsibility to not have a relationship with anyone who isn't 100% responsible for the relationship ALSO.
Then you have much less risk of failure as where one person has a weakness-the other has it covered UNTIL THE FIRST CAN STRENGTHEN THEIR WEAKNESS and both parties know that they will both be fully committed to seeking out their own weaknesses and improving them-not allowing themselves to take advantage of the other persons strength.
For me the "total responsibility" within a relationship is 100% X the number of people in that relationship.
Two people = 200% responsibility. Three, 300%.