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Old 04-24-2013, 01:59 PM
alternativevirgo alternativevirgo is offline
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Dallas, TX
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Actually, I'm going through something similar. It wasn't a long relationship, but I still miss what we had and I feel that I'm missing out on the memories we could have made. But his reasons were vague when he decided to end things, but I think it has to do with what he wants out of a relationship (marriage/children), which is something I cannot give him. I can be committed to him, but not in the same way I am to my husband and I don't see us having children together (nor is my husband comfortable with the idea of my secondary being my baby daddy). It sucks because we do love each other and are really attracted to one another. But over the past week, it's gotten better. We are working hard at keeping the close bond we had when we were friends, but trying to keep the romantic/sexual side in check. We check in with each other every few days (keeping the conversation a friendly/platonic one) and we still hang out from time to time with our social circle. It's not easy, but I'd rather have this than not have him in my life at all. Another thing that has helped me is the support of my husband, which is weird and awesome at the same time. My hubbs is my best friend, so it makes sense that he would have my back during this situation. He's even gone as far as watching sappy movies and eating ice cream with me while telling me (in his best sassy best-friend voice), "Girl, he is not good enough for you, you can do so much better!". LOL. Everyone here is right, it does get better. This is just like any other breakup, it sucks, it hurts, you want them back, but after time you've adjusted to your loss and want to move on.
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