Originally Posted by AnnabelMore
He said that it hadn't really occurred to him before then that he has a pattern of being vague if there's something he doesn't really want to say (in this case, the example being him saying "Maybe, I'll think about it," rather than just "No, I really don't think I have the time, unfortunately" when asked about a weeknight date when he already has too many evenings booked). He said that he was glad for the insight and that he'd feel much more comfortable being direct from now on.
To me, fascinating, not trivial at all. My boyfriend also avoids stuff, and I have tried to learn to interpret his absence of specifics, but I still wonder how much he is aware of the pattern himself. It seems so obvious to me.
And congrats on the success of your direct approach!