Originally Posted by Jokerfwb
Unfortunately our financial situation has not allowed it and we don't have anyone that we can rely on steadily to watch our kids. We did try once but finding babysitters was to difficult. It would help I'm sure. We have read books and tried to do some work books but never stuck to it.
One thought, if your wife talked to her friend about these things (which I think is a good idea anyway - how can you develop a relationship with someone if you keep significant parts of you life from them?), AND she was willing, would you be OK with her watching your kids while you went to counseling IF you didn't object to an equal amount of time for them alone to develop their relationship? Just a thought (you and your wife get counseling nights on Tuesdays and she and your wife get date-nights on Thursdays)...