There are some surface similarities, but in terms of the issues you've been struggling with, no. I asked because it was something that stuck out to me in your story, it's such a basic issue of fairness. And I bet you really would be able to be more chill and calm about his time (not that any of your requests were remotely unreasonable, but just for your own mental peace) if you were sharing your romantic focus like he is. Good luck with the conversation, if/when you have it!
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.