I'll learn :)
Thank you for the reply and the very good advice you gave. I think you are absolutely right on every point you made.
It gives me a lots of hope to see intelligent and emphatic people actually discussing here. It's indeed a symbol of the start of my process to once again to work on accepting my own sexuality, that I registered on this forum. And it seems I can receive useful ideas here as well. Wow!
On our relations here: I somewhat automatically proceed slowly with this as Kay's friend's job keeps her away from us quite a lot. On the other hand, there is a clear risk to jump into conclusions while waiting her to come back. I hope since I realize this, I'm on my way to figure out how to communicate everything sufficiently with everybody.