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Old 04-22-2013, 01:51 PM
Cleo Cleo is offline
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yes. to me there is a tremendous difference between this


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Originally Posted by BaggagePatrol View Post

I have the right to change the structure or pacing of any of my relationships.
and this:

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I have the right to your compassion
the first quote, yes of course, I have the right to do what I want and to structure my relationships any way I want.
But the second quote? who or what gives me the right to someone else's honesty / consideration / compassion / whatever? It is their choice to treat me the way they want to treat me, and then my choice to tell them I'm okay being treated that way. So all 'rights' that are about someone else's behavior, to me, would need to be redefined as wishes, wants or expectations.
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