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Old 01-14-2010, 02:20 AM
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Originally Posted by crisare View Post
Hm. I'm not *entirely* sure I agree with this. I would not have cheated on my husband if the person I had the affair with didn't encourage our relationship to continue and become a party to my lies.
I hear you on this. I guess I was coming from a place of knowing that I would never go so far as to encourage an affair. And from the assumption that as a cheatee, (a person that's being cheated with), I discovered afterwards about the other person.

I am still processing everything I'm reading here. I am enjoying reading this thread, (and definitely feel that it's valuable on this board, though I definitely understand why Fidelia feels it's not relevant to poly).

All of this brings up the question: If I am open to stretching parts of myself, where does it stop being healthy, good-for-me growth and simply being untrue to myself? That's what I'm mulling over and don't have much else to contribute than that.
My heart is too big to fit into one person.
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