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Old 06-15-2009, 04:13 AM
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Default Then they all rolled over and..... (Or when 4 becomes 3)

Hi Everyone, I have been watching the forum as a guest for a little while ( I know....naughty zoot!) and decided I needed to join to get some advice on my sticky little situation.

Once upon a time ( about three years ago ) my husband of ten years and I met a lovely couple that we fell in love with. They were also married and we enjoyed a poly quad for some time .

Unfortunately, my boyfriend broke up with his wife after she had a relationship with another man. She had hidden it from all of us ( it lasted about 9 months ). There were other issues causing the break up at the time, but the affair was the icing on the cake. At the time, my hubby and I were trying to be supportive to both in our own way, until she broke up with my hubby as well (with little explanation despite him really trying to help).

Eventually my husband got back with the ex, and is happy with that relationship. Myself and my bf aren't completely happy ( I felt that she mistreated my hubby) but we understand that the relationship between them is theirs and doesn't affect ours with each other or with him.

The problem is, she's been really angry towards me and I can't do anything right. I still have to work with her so I can't avoid her and when I do see her she treats me like something she stepped in. I have been really careful not to talk about either of the boys with her, or be intimate with either in public. I try really hard to be sensitive about her feelings, but don't always do all the things she wants me to, to make her feel better about herself.

I have tried confronting her, my husband has tried to confront her, all to no avail because she strongly believes that I am being nasty to her. It's starting to affect the faith that I have in my relationship with my husband as it hurts to know that he wants to be with someone who appears to have little respect for me.

What do I do? How do I resolve this? Does she need to move on completely to get over the breakdown of her marriage? Should I keep copping the silent treatment and the snide remarks to make everyone happy? Is there another way out?

Thanks for your help everyone

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