Working on the road right now. Things at home are better. Still not thrilled with everything but responding in a quiet yet stern manner seems to be working.
I just said "no" and explained how the whole situation made me feel, not just to him
but to her also. I get home tomorrow so we shall see where we go from here. I am still not opposed to having a poly relationship but I think I was more on the right track by talking to expeerienced people before jumping the gun with anyone.