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Old 04-19-2013, 01:53 AM
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I've long believed that our relationships with others are meant to teach us about ourselves. Certainly, even though there may be painful experiences, the opportunity for self-knowledge is a blessing. It doesn't matter if you have one love or many if you grow and learn from your relationships. If your husband can use the experiences of poly, or of being mono in a poly arrangement, as a tool to look inward then you have given him a gift. Neither mono nor poly can be called right or wrong. They just are options, one of which happens to be more accepted in society than the other, but it's up to us to make the most of it and not start on a pity party or beat ourselves up because a partner might be having difficulty. If you approach it all with love and compassion, you will both be fine.
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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