Originally Posted by Marcus
There are only a few options here:
She pretends to be momogamous for your sake and is miserable.
You pretend to be ok with her polyamoryy and you are miserable.
One of you has a true worldview shift regarding personal accountability.
Realize your way of relating is incompatible.
Pick one and deal with the consequences.
Agree with this. You sound angry and upset, SSmith. Something has to changed for there to be happiness.
Me: Late 20's "hinge" to a V. New to Poly but previous swinger for roughly 4 years. Married since 2008 but together since 2007.
Husband: Mid 30's. Maybe Poly but not monogamous. Swinger.
Beaner: My recent ex and my first poly relationship.