Well... if yours is a need to feel secure traveling with no map. His is a need to be trusted to make good judgements.
You have suggested some things for the initial "how to work toward that place" stage 1 plan.
What's his suggestion for the "how to get there" plan?
If it really is "you can have any plan you want so long as it is MY WAY."
Then that's not really compromise or taking your wants, needs, and limits into consideration. And you are within your rights to say "Nope. Not polyshipping when I have no voice at the table. Not willing."
Then he can make his next move. And then you make yours after that based on new information received.
You don't have to do things against your own willingness.
Hang in there.