Originally Posted by xtrememousey
.....let's just say that it didn't go well. they said stuff but the thing that stood out was that they said we are going to "mess up" our kids.
anyone have any suggestions on how to start the conversation and get on better terms with them and helping how they view our triad....
It is not easy, the thing is, it is quite possible that you already made a decent argument in favour of your family and that is why his family fell on that old chestnut of 'What about the children????
You may have to accept that no matter how well you present your family situation and how stable and healthy it is, they still may not accept it or come to terms with it. Your husband may have to decide whether to reduce contact with them so as to reduce stress on your family, he can't please 100% of the people 100% of the time.
You can't change other people's minds but you can learn to be patient whilst they adjust their thinking and eventually come to terms with it in their own way and as long as that is acceptable to you than you can start to move forward.