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Old 04-17-2013, 04:03 AM
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Default In NRE but can't see my partner

Argh.

This is not really poly-specific, as this could happen in an LDR, or in a mono relationship where one or both partners is/are just very busy. But since my situation is a poly situation, I figured it'd be cool to post it here.

So, I've been seeing this guy for about a month. I'm head over heels for him, crazy in love/lust, very much feeling the NRE, wanting to see him all the time. But I have a couple of other partners and a very busy life, he has a few other partners and an even busier life, and we're seeing each other maybe once a week right now, for just a couple of hours and then an overnight, generally. We might not get to see each other this week, and it's bumming me out. Right now we just SO don't have enough time together to match the level of NRE that I'm feeling.

It used to be that we were talking online a lot, but lately he's been busier at work and we haven't been doing that. I think about him and it's like the desire to be with him just tugs at me, and there's nothing I can do with that feeling. When I don't think about him it's fine, but I think about him a LOT and it's beginning to bring me down a little.

Any strategies for dealing with that? Or, anyone just wanna commiserate?
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The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.
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