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Old 04-17-2013, 12:15 AM
SSmith SSmith is offline
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 11
Unhappy Should me and my wife just call it quits?

I am a mono trapped in a poly relationship, she wants it, I do not.

I love her dearly, but when isn't love enough? Every time she fools around or sleeping with one of her partners I feel cheated on, literally sick to my stomach. It doesn't turn me on in any way whatsoever to think of her with her partners (all female). Attempting to compensate I try to begin my own relationship but I feel nothing and more then likely will let it fail. She tries to urge me to be "open" but I feel like it's her way of not feeling guilty if we are both doing it, if that makes any sense.

The reason I have not it quits yet, is because I cant put my finger on what is bother me.

I am not especially jealous, I see the person as competition more then anything else. I have no problems personally attracting women to me, so it's not a confidence thing. I have no issue with the lifestyle in itself, just the thought of her being with someone else makes me ill.

I want her to be happy, and it's almost like I love her so much I wanna leave her so my feelings don't mess with her poly "inner self".

TLDR - I am miserable, I dont want her to be miserable to make me happy. And Id do anything to save us and figure out how to work through this.

Thank you.

Last edited by SSmith; 04-17-2013 at 01:31 AM.
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