Originally Posted by Dirtclustit
Regardless of whether or not it ever progresses beyond just talking about it, the two of you have an opportunity to have your relationship strengthened by a much deeper level of intimacy, through honesty and understanding. It isn't easy, but it is so worth it, and it can be obtained without ever actually 'opening up' your relationship.
I can tell you that just talking about it did make my marriage closer and more loving than ever. Actually following through has been amazing as well.
Talk. Talk until you need a break, take it, and then talk more. You can do this. I was more prepared for my husband to bring it up than it sounds like you were, and it was still hard. But so worth it.