Originally Posted by Natja
Than why bother? At the end of the day, it is your opinion, I (and a few other people) obviously have a different definition of cheating.
Why bother? Because I thought it might be helpful, in case people hadn't looked at the original thread in a while, and because I thought that, even if people already have opinions, those opinions might always be capable of being changed by a new voice (isn't that the purpose of discussion?). Or that, if nothing else, Pol (or even Egoscout) might appreciate a more even-handed take on things. I wasn't trying to define cheating, just who screwed up and how, and it seems clear to me that they both did.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.