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Old 04-16-2013, 04:40 AM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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This is terrible!

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Actually, you don't need to accept this situation or forgive him at all. You can kick him out, change the locks, and file divorce papers.

And then you can find a Dom who will treat you with love and respect.
I cannot say it better than Meera.

Your spouse cheated and wants to use the D/s dynamic to just make it ok? No... not ethical, dude. Not ethical poly, not ethical D/s. Just cheating crap.

A dom only GETS to be a dom to the sub because of the sub's desire/wishes and consent. You both play in the D/s framework you both co-create. Unless you signed up for this treatment (and your response indicates you did NOT) he's crossing lines. If he cannot control himself how can he hope to control you in a good D/s dynamic?

Could call shenanigans and just end it. You don't need this. Say no thanks, not participating! Not good for my health! Do what you gotta -- change locks, get std testing, get counseling -- do your self care you decide you need to heal YOU.

Hang in there!

Galagirl

Last edited by GalaGirl; 04-16-2013 at 04:44 AM.
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