hi every one, i am new to polyamory and this forum looked like a good place to post this unique question/situation. i have been in a triad poly extended family now for almost a year. my female partner, kyla and i are married (8+ years). our male partner, rick was added to our family about 10 months ago. me, well, i am a non-op male to female transsexual (technically! but i never use that label as i identify as all around female... ignoring that extra part!
). ok, now that i have introduced my family lets continue to the situation... today we found out that kyla is 6 weeks pregnant!!! yay, congrats!
we are all VERY excited about this. however, there has been a lot of debate today about which last name to choose for the baby. before the baby is born i do have plans to change my name legally to tarra lynn danner-hanas (hyphenating with ricks last name - hanas and my birth family name - danner). we are also absolutely sure that the baby is from a happy loving union between rick and kyla. because of this rick wants the baby's last name to be hanas but then kyla wants the last name to be danner. ya, very debative! LOL i don't mind either way. LOL so, internet community, what last name should baby have?
also, wanted some advice as well, with kyla and i being legally married and this child is a creation of rick and kyla is the law going to get involved because of some archaic cohabitation prohibited laws in alaska? or will the law step in because this is living proof of adultery? according to what ive researched about non-mono laws in alaska they state that any form of cohabitation (poly in any form) is illegal. i am concerned and dont want to get into any trouble. so, what advice can any of you give me???