The whole reason I joined the forum, getting others point of view, things I have not thought of.... You make some very valid points and I will have to give these things some serious thought. The things that I am not okay with, I have been so busy thinking about the things I would be okay with but never considered what I might not.
K is my love, my heart and has been for my entire adult life. My first consideration has always been pleasing him but thats easy when its just the two of us.
Thank you for your thoughts...