I recommend you both bring it up with your respective partners asap. If your boyfriend leaves then you were not meant to be, same as with his fiancÚ. To carry on expressing your interest without talking to your spouses is disrespecting them in my opinion. Definitely both of you need to express your possible polyamorous natures before either of you get married. I can't stress that enough. It would be like trapping the people you love before telling them what you need to be happy. I won’t even pretend that this would be easy. I wish you the best.
Last edited by MonoVCPHG; 06-14-2009 at 05:34 AM.